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Mindset

Perfectionism

Ep# 77: Perfectionism Makes You Fatter

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep# 77: Perfectionism Makes You Fatter
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While negativity can be destructive, it can also be relatively constructive even for a self-deprecating pessimist, Dr. Kashey says. There is a difference between preferences and demands; the former creates helpful pressure, the latter creates harmful pressure. Demanding too much of yourself can lead to anxiety and depression, which will in turn push you farther from your goals. It will wear down your feeling of self-worth. Following your preferences is a constructive way to practice scientific-mindedness and create a successful path to progress. We are not meant to expect perfection of ourselves. Dr. Kashey teaches us how to put those unrealistic, dogmatic demands to rest, and instead adopt helpful preferences that will lead us to overcome the hurdle of perfectionism.

Sabotage

Ep# 76: 4 Reasons You Self- Sabotage

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep# 76: 4 Reasons You Self- Sabotage
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Dr. Kashey puts on his scientific minded thinking cap and answers the age-old question of “How does what you believe influence the way you process your thoughts, thereby dictating how you act?” He compares rigid versus flexible beliefs, scientific versus dogmatic, rational versus impulsive, and constructive versus destructive outcomes. In order to overcome adversity, solve problems, and reach goals, a person must make observations between what they’re doing and what they want. Together with Dr. Kashey, we will observe the three self-sabotaging beliefs that are hiding right underneath our noses and learn how to handle them. It can be frustrating, but that is a part of finding the solution.

science

Ep# 75: Do You Have Science-Mindedness?

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep# 75: Do You Have Science-Mindedness?
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After a quick review of a dogmatic system versus a scientific system, Dr. Kashey shows how scientific thinking has a rightful and helpful place in our daily lives. It has an impact in the real world and can aid us in comprehending contradictions in the context of self-respect. Although scientific thinking hinges on facts and logic, this does not equate it to being rigid. Since facts are constantly being revised, science is relatively flexible. This leaves room for belief systems to dictate a person’s values and actions. Dr. Kashey shares six intuitive principles we can use to practically apply scientific-mindedness, followed by a 3 step process to integrate it into our lives. There is a way to rationally and constructively reach our goals and overall improve our lives while thinking scientifically and holding onto what we believe.

dogma

Ep# 74: Science Vs Dogma

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep# 74: Science Vs Dogma
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At the start of a mini-series covering the comparison of thinking dogmatically versus thinking scientifically, Dr. Kashey gives us a good overview of the differences between the two, as well as how they can impact our emotions. Dogmatic thinking has a relatively arbitrary and rigid nature. On the other hand, scientific thinking is thorough, accurate, and allows for flexible outcomes. Factors such as the aspect of life being analyzed, and the emotional state of a person can determine if they are more dogmatically-minded or scientifically-minded. There is a place for both thinking styles, as Dr. Kashey explains further in the episode. An example of someone contemplating their health and fitness goals with dogmatic thinking would sound like “I HAVE to be sexy, strong, and in perfect shape.” They would set hard expectations for themselves. Whereas someone considering their health and fitness goals with a scientific mindset would understand that it’s not the end of the world if they miss their mark and they would continue to lead a purposeful life.

problems

Ep# 73: Fix For When Your Search for Answers Cause More Problems

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep# 73: Fix For When Your Search for Answers Cause More Problems
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Sometimes our search for answers can reveal more problems instead of answers. Dr. Kashey teaches us how to stop this problematic spiral and redirect our focus so that we can find answers. While finding the root of the problem seems to be widely accepted advice, Dr. Kashey argues that digging into the past may actually hinder us from facing the problem in the present in addition to giving an excuse for procrastination. Touching on a previous episode with Dr. Kashey, self-esteem could be another obstacle to solving problems. If too much is expected of ourselves, i.e. if we expect perfection, then it can be tempting to believe that the outcome or reason for a problem defines an individual’s self-worth. This is an unfair concept to put upon yourself and others. There is hope in the world of problem-solving, and Dr. Kashey is excited to fuel your cognitive-grinder and create systematic, rational, and constructive solutions.

self-respect

Ep# 72: Self-Respect is the Cure

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep# 72: Self-Respect is the Cure
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Following a controversial episode about the belief that self-esteem is a potent cognitive poison, Dr. Kashey now reveals the cure: respect. While self-esteem ties a person’s worth to the outcome of their actions, self-respect does not depend on outcomes or expectations set by oneself or others. Taking risks is an essential part of life; therefore, the chance of failure exists. How one responds to perceived failure does not always have to be negative and depressing. Self-esteem assumes the thought that a person is dumb if the outcome is dumb. Self-respect empowers us to evaluate performance exclusive of the entity. Dr. Kashey encourages us to discover the power of self-respect when analyzing our decisions and defining who we are.

self-esteem

Ep #71: Self-Esteem is a Disease

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep #71: Self-Esteem is a Disease
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Dr. Kashey shares his conceivably unpopular opinion that self-esteem is a poison worse than hate. If you disagree, don’t go anywhere just yet, because you must know by now that Dr. Kashey does a thorough job of digging deeper and explaining how he came to this conclusion. Self-esteem can lead us to judge ourselves and our value by our own expectations as well as expectations set forth by other people. This can be dangerous. When expectations are disappointed, it gets sticky if we then associate the seemingly “bad” outcome with our identity, worth, or humanity. Everyone knows it’s impossible to be perfect. Self-esteem doesn’t leave room for failure, which is a normal part of life. People should not avoid risk in order to avoid failure/imperfection for the sake of protecting their self-esteem. Dr. Kashey cautions us against anxiously seeking self-esteem, and instead prompts us towards self-respect, which is much more helpful and rewarding.

consistency

Ep# 66: Consistency is What Perpetuates Problems

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep# 66: Consistency is What Perpetuates Problems
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“Consistency is key.” We read those words on bumper stickers and on motivational posters in our office cubicles. But consistency is an outcome, not a way to achieve a goal. In this episode, Dr. Kashey explains how this trite expression is actually damaging our ability to improve ourselves, and how persistent action is truly the key to solving problems we’ve been stuck with for a long time.

eating

Ep #63: What You Eat Vs How You Eat

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep #63: What You Eat Vs How You Eat
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While we technically could “eat better,” Dr. Kashey wants to give credit where it’s due – to you! If you have made it this far, then you’re doing well. Since most of us have a good idea of what to eat, Dr. Kashey instead discusses how to eat in this episode. Rather than impulsive, chaotic, rebellious, and otherwise amateur eating, he teaches us how to eat like a pro: with permission, discipline, and competence. The more permission we give ourselves to say “yes” to the mind and body working together, the more we are able to be competent with our eating. Dr. Kashey reviews two keys to learning and growing: preventing deficiencies and establishing security in your essential requirements to survive, and taking the rest of your available resources to develop beyond those essential requirements to survive.

retooling

Ep #61: Outcome Bias Needs Retooling

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Coffee With Dr. Kashey
Ep #61: Outcome Bias Needs Retooling
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In a continuation of Dr. Kashey’s series on “how and why the brain is wired to be lazy, oversimplify, and what you can do about it,” he now discusses the subject of outcome bias. Outcome bias is when someone judges the validity of a decision or person based on the outcome rather than judging the validity of the decision itself and the reason, logic, and evidence on which the decision was based. This unfortunately can lead to an unfair opinion of a person. Dr. Kashey believes we deserve more respect than that. In this episode, Dr. Kashey will give us the tools we need to properly analyze outcome bias and rid ourselves of it.