The views from the top of the Great Wall of China are pretty spectacular. But what if you were a soldier who had to scale it? Now that’s a challenge. And that’s how it can feel when you’ve been on top of your plans, making some great progress – but then you mess up and are thrown off your groove! Will you ever be able to get back on track? Yes! The good Dr. Kashey has got your back with some valuable insight, and a simple three-step solution to help you get back on track sooner than you’d think was possible!
An “eye for an eye” sounds fair – but what about “an eye for an arm, and a leg, and an eye?” Believe it or not, we actually do this to ourselves sometimes! Like if you’ve ever goofed, and then instead of making a small correction you’ve done extra to “make up” for that mistake. This kind of overcompensation is actually pretty common, especially for high-performing people! But don’t worry, because the good doctor has the fix so that instead of punishing yourself for making mistakes, you can take steps toward mastering them!
Dr. Kashey explains that many of his clients expect perfection from themselves and beat themselves up over goofs in their lives. The goofs can be in any area of life. Extreme high performers are the worst at beating themselves up over mistakes made, creating a feedback loop of self-sabotaging behavior.
Have you ever noticed that you revert to a younger version of yourself around your family? Or maybe you find yourself acting out around an old group of friends? Whether they mean to or not, people who have known you for a long time often fail to recognize that you’ve changed. Instead, they treat you as an outdated version of yourself! This can become a setback and cause you to revert to old habits. But the good Dr. Kashey has a solution! In this episode, learn to stay true to the new you and convert those habits into victories.
Does your family think they can say whatever they want about you, whenever they want? “You know, you wouldn’t be so heavy if you skipped dessert once and a while!” Somehow the people close to us have a way of knowing just what to say to bring us down. The good news is, you don’t have to “grin and bear it” any longer! Dr. Kashey has a four-step plan to help you build resilience to negative input, and change the dynamic of difficult relationships.
Are you indulging in harmless habits? You start with just one cookie but it turns into a binge, sound familiar? These cycles of binging create chronic stress that leads to indulgent habits, which lead to more stress. So how can you conquer chronic stressors and those inevitable binges? Find out in this episode with Dr. Trevor Kashey, as he covers how to take care of yourself without letting your stress relievers become a negative binge habit!
Have you ever made a New Year’s resolution only to give it up after a few weeks? Are even the best-intentioned plans and accountability measures not leading to success? Well, Dr. Kashey knows what’s missing. Join him in this episode for an “angry nerd rant” to find out what that missing piece is, and why motivational language actually has the opposite effect!
Listen to Ep 24 ‘Dr. Kashey’s Nerd rage: MoTiVaTiOnAl QuOtEs’ Now.
Hosted by Dr. Trevor Kashey
Did you know it’s possible to tell someone “no” without actually saying “no”? Most people have pre-programmed responses to the word, so avoiding it can actually be highly effective. But people can also sense when you wish you didn’t have to resist. So how can you turn your wishbone into a backbone? Listen as Dr. Kashey gets into the details about how to be firm with pushy people and instead say “yes” to yourself.
At a porch party with his neighbors, Dr. Kashey responded to a question with another question: What is selfishness, really? The word has a negative connotation, but is it ever okay to be selfish? In this episode, the good doctor discusses the implications of selfishness.
Listen to Ep 22. ‘Dr. Kashey’s Fix For Feeling Guilty When Acting “Selfish” ’ Now.
Hosted by Dr. Trevor Kashey